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“I just decided to.”

“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” – Bruce Lee

This has to be one of my all-time favorite quotes-it instructs a person to just learn to flow with things, and not go against nature. Seems like practical enough advice, a decent way to avoid drama and not get sucked into worrying about things you simply have no control over.

So why the hell is it so hard for me to do lately?

liked being calm and cool about things no matter the situation, and just rolling with whatever gets thrown my way. No BS, no regrets, just complete confidence that I knew I was doing the right thing, making the right decision, if you agree with me and want to ride along, cool, if not, that’s cool too. Pressure didn’t matter, I was certain I could face it. Did I always keep cool and stay collected? Of course not, I think everyone has those moments where they feel like they were on the verge of cracking…I’d always do my best not to show it though, and I think I succeeded.

(Before I go any further, I should probably add this: I’m not writing this based on one situation or one decision. Really.)

I miss that me. I’ve been questioning a good majority of things I do for months. Are the stakes a bit higher? Probably, but that never bothered me before. I could willfully detach emotionally from a situation in the past, but that’s been absolutely difficult. I’ll still follow my instincts, but not with the conviction I usually followed them with because I’m not sure how it’ll play out or I’m going to pull a Mosby or I’m going to Britta a situation (and there are your pop culture references for this post…How I Met Your Mother and Community in case you were curious).

The confidence is fleeting, and I don’t like it. Not one bit. So now the question becomes: what to do about it? (Besides be like water)

Talking it out is alright…writing it out like this is good too. And sometimes it might just be worth going the distraction route…like now. Not even sure why I’m throwing this out there, but what the hell…it’s just something I decided to do. Might as well stick with it.


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Depends on whom you ask-another random train of thought 20 minute post

It occurred to me that ever since I did this blogger profile over at Hockey Blogette a couple of weeks ago (and if you haven’t checked out that hockey blog run by my friend Jenn, you should), I haven’t written much lately.

But Norm, that’s what you usually do-hammer out a couple of posts and then ignore it for a bit.

True, but I figure if I’m going to do a profile, then I should probably write a bit more than I usually do. So why not just start the clock and start writing? Here we go…

Of course, the first thing I write about is checking a couple of the grammar issues I wasn’t sure about: who/whom (still not sure if that works in the title page), and double checking then/than usage (I was correct, but just wanted to make sure).

A few months ago I wrote about not overanalyzing things, and looking back at that post I’m starting this one the same way. Have I improved at all in that regard? Hell no, but all I can do is keep plugging away at it. I at least catch myself doing the overanalyzing bit which wasn’t the case at all before, but just letting things flow/come what(ever) may/let the chips land wherever is still something I need to learn to do a bit more effectively. I know I’m not the only one but I tend to replay even trivial chance encounters over and over in my head, wondering just what exactly I could’ve done/said differently…not just the ‘game changing’ events that occur a little less often. I need to stop that.

Also looking back at that post I referenced in the previous paragraph, I truly did enjoy Twitter then. I still love getting to know the people I’ve met through it, and the ones I have met have turned out to be good friends, good people and I wouldn’t trade any of those experiences. There are still even more people I look forward to meeting. But as usual, time can change everything. I closed down one Twitter account and have given thought to leaving it altogether. I love the stream of information, I love the quirky, hilarious nature of my friends, I even love the occasional disagreement. But sometimes I feel like I…got lost along the way. Maybe it’s a break that’s needed…I guess that all depends on who you ask (still not sure if that’s correct).

So what am I?

A good friend that’ll stay loyal and defend you even when I think you’re nuts? Sure, without a doubt and my closest friends know that.

Okay, what else?

Someone that can be talked to? Someone that trusts even when I say time and again that I won’t be so quick to trust (like the great philosopher Greg House MD says, “Everybody lies”)?  A confidant? A lover? An asshole? A selfish, sarcastic prick? An easy mark? A hard target? A role model, a bad example, a dreamer, a realist, normal, happy-go-lucky, a grouch?

Someone that, other than a couple of year-end projects with Doug from The Detroit Transplant (hey, I plug other blogs when I can, and he writes a helluva lot more than I do-entertaining too) is tempted to, if not close his Twitter account down just take a long break and disappear for awhile? I do have the number of or am Facebook friends with everyone that matters…right?

Someone that knows this went a bit longer than 20 minutes to write but continued on anyway? (Okay, that’s true).

All that above, or none of it at all? I guess that just depends on who you ask.

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Merry Christmas, Everyone

Absolutely, I don’t update this anywhere near enough and I should a bunch more often (don’t want to disappoint all two of you that read this, haha). There are big things coming for this blog from me in the very near future, even a end of year/decade type thing I’ve been working on–sports, movies, tv, music, news I’m ambitiously tackling it all.

Tonight though, I just want to wish all of you a Merry Christmas–I hope you get whatever you’re wishing for!

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My musings on the Wings, and other stuff…

One win short. Just one.

I think there’s only one of you reading this anyway, and as that person (and now you, should you find yourself here now) already knows, I’ve avoided hitting up any message board I usually frequent the last few days to a.) avoid getting pissed off at any ‘fan’ actually rooting for the Penguins/anyone just looking to poke fun at the Wings’ loss, and 2.) avoid seeing anything that would influence what I thought happened in this series. Seeing your favorite team lose a Game 7 in their own damn building hurts quite a bit, and not just something you can forget about straight away. I’ve thought about this for the last few days, and I’m pretty sure my mourning period has passed. So here it is…

The Wings let this series get away from them, it’s as simple as that. There’s no way anyone can tell me that the Penguins were the better team–they aren’t. What I saw in the last two games of the Cup Finals was what I grew familiar with the Pistons from 2005-2008: the Red Wings didn’t play a full game like everyone had grown accustomed to seeing (and no, I don’t think this team was simply gassed). Had the Wings done what they usually do from Game 1 of these finals, this series is over in 5 games tops. But all too often they sat back (something they also did with alarming regularity throughout the regular season and the earlier rounds of the playoffs, as well). Instead of shooting the puck continuously against rebound machine Marc-Andre Fleury (kid is overrated), they tried to wait for the perfect shot and that allowed the Pens to either block the shot or Fleury to get into position. Things didn’t start happening for the Wings until the last period of games 6 & 7, and you could tell the difference. Yeah, I know this sounds exactly like I’m saying the Pens didn’t win it, the Wings lost it–and that’s exactly what I mean it to say. There’s no way that team is better than the Red Wings.

As for Brad Stuart, yes, he had a horrible Game 7–but up to that point in the playoffs he’d been absolutely stellar for the Wings, and I really can’t find fault with him overall. Marian Hossa, OTOH–maybe he was pressing too much and he drew a shit draw having to face his former team in the Finals, but the bottom line is he was rather pedestrian throughout the playoffs anyhow. I wouldn’t mind seeing him back in a Red Wings uniform again, but while a couple of months ago I’d say the Wings should do whatever they can to make that happen now I think he can come back for the right price. As for Chris Osgood–wow is pretty much all I can say about his playoff performance. I’m one of Ozzie’s biggest fans but what I saw this postseason was above and beyond anything I could’ve hoped for. The guy was the MVP for the Wings in the playoffs this year.

The future? Still bright in Detroit. A lot of young guys stepped up, and the Wings have a great core. Hopefully this loss reminds them that games are 60 minutes and not 20, and I think they got the message. This is going to be one pissed off Red Wings team next season, and I have no doubt in my mind that this team will get what should’ve been theirs this year: a 12th Stanley Cup Trophy.

Okay, other stuff: I’m now living in Chicago, but for the next two weeks will be working 4-5 day stretches at my old employer back in Detroit (I must’ve been either very understanding of the situation or totally lost my mind when I agreed to this). Crazy I know, but it at least allows me to bank some extra $ on the side–and for some reason I felt I owed them that much even if this situation is largely of their doing. I don’t like leaving any place in a lurch.

I absolutely love it here in this town; I’ve always wanted to get a feel for what it’s like to live in a big city with a pulse. But it would be nice to get a little cooperation from Mother Nature–it seems like every day I’ve been here it’s been overcast and/or rainy. It’s a great, great town (even if I am DEFINITELY NOT a fan of their sports teams–Detroiter ’til I die!). There’s so much to do and see here, and even after all this time visiting my brother and sister over the last three years I know I’ve only scratched the surface. This won’t be a long-term move, but it’s definitely a good stepping stone.

Until next time…

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